As a parent, I struggle with my child to have her finish her endeavors. I push her to be better, to fall and get right back up there and start over again. Depending on some personality types, this process can be hard or easy. I’d say my daughter can be a bit of both, and I am completely aware of it, giving her space when it is simply too much to handle, but still actively encourage her to push her talents and skills, not letting her stop before she finished what she started, staying by her side. She was also very afraid of heights and didn’t experiment a lot before I showed her what I could do and that I was there when she’d fall. Now she jumps and runs and makes her dad and grand parents cringe their teeth.
I have had a problem with education since my first day of High School and been trying to analyze and resolve these issues by finding ways to accommodate a balance between grade and self reliance, parents, school and inner strength. Going through possible psychological problems over and over again when the problem is really present at a young age. It is always nice to read about teachers, parents and philosophers that are also struggling with these same issues: self-reliance, self-confidence, motivation, ambition at levels of everyday conflicts as well as career building. I am not afraid to tell my kid, ”This is not amazing, but it is good work, and you finished it. If you keep working at it, you’ll do great things.” She gets bored easily and that means we have to push her a little bit more in order for her to not loose interest, which can often lead in fights. Lack of communication does that, but it’s not a perfect process on less of steps are taken to solving details of the bigger picture. Meaning, if a problem is constant, then sit down and work on it with the people involved. Or by yourself if you realize your attitude is the one that’s mistaken.
It is important for us to let our children grow into who they are and they can only do that if we give them the tools and let them fend for themselves, but always be there to overlook and give our opinion if necessary, give an option, an idea: ”My drawing sucks, I won’t finish it…” ”Did you think of putting the color blue? Or maybe just cutting the edges a little”, ”Just try it, who cares, it’s only paper!”
Sometimes, we tell our kids not to do stuff like painting on the walls or jumping from a bench. When you think about it, what’s the big deal? You think you’re kid will grow into being a low life graffiti artist if he or she draws on your wall? Have them repaint the wall with you, have a specific section only to paint or draw. You think they will automatically hurt themselves if they try jumping from different surfaces? Maybe your child just needs your hand for now, but soon they’ll be jumping from higher and finding ways to fall without hurting themselves. It becomes a matter of choosing your battles, yes thinking about their safety, but some kids need that extra challenge, in fact a lot a kids need to push harder to gain access to their confidence!
Here is the latest one I have read and an example of Oriental teachings